1. “You’re so tight.” I’m not here to debate the size and shape of a woman’s interior, but I know for a fact if a woman is turned on, her insides contract. Telling her she’s tight will make her contract, hence be tighter, making the statement true. Also, you could download this Kegel exercises app, making orgasms stronger for you both. (It’s almost a self-fulfilling prophecy.)
2. “I’m all yours.” This is not a promise of picking out wedding cutlery, just a beautiful thing to hear (when sincere!) whether you’re dominating a man or submitting to him. In that moment he is offering himself completely to her whims which can be über hot.
3. “I want to taste you.” The same women who have benefited from hook-up culture (we’re all getting laid, yay!) sometimes report losing in the area of receiving oral. Some men class this as “more intimate” except that if your dick has been in her mouth, that kinda sorta already implies a little intimacy, dontcha think? (Go down, be invited back, I always say.)
4. “You taste so good.” When he does go down, reassurance every woman likes, even if she doesn’t need it. Nice to know all that grooming, good diet and hygiene payed off. The natural smell and taste of a well ph balanced vag is likely to please a het dude, a gay lady, or any other permutation of People Who Love Vaginas, so why not verbalize that? Do not make her hang a Little Tree over it.
5. “You’re so hot.” Even if you know you are, and especially if you don’t, it doesn’t hurt to hear it, especially from someone who’s ploughing your crannies.
6. “What do you want me to do to you?” In the language of BDSM this would be giving her the opportunity to “top” from the “bottom.” The man might still be dominating, but he is doing it in the manner she requests.
7. “Your skin is so soft.” Unless she’s a farmer, her skin will probably be softer than another man’s. Tell her so, or perhaps this is the time of life when you explore that secret farmer fetish.
8. “That feels amazing.” Even if you’re not that verbal in the sack, people adjust themselves to their sex partner with aural cues. Breathing and sounds are an excellent way to let someone know they are on the right track. Telling someone directly is also helpful, unless you’re fucking a psychic.
9. “Look at your_________.” Insert favorite body part here… Also included in this is “Look at that _________.” Even if she’s not a complete exhibitionist, women love to be visually appreciated, and don’t mind a little filthy reminder that their assets have been duly noted for the record.
10. Ask her. The best way to figure out what your lady is into, is to make like Sherlock motherfucking Holmes and investigate that shit. Every single one of us has a sexuality that is as unique as a thumbprint and wants nothing more than to be discovered. Also, the depth of our experience is difficult to encompass in a listicle, as some women love being told what to do in the sack, some even want to be (consensually) humiliated. (Do not try this unless you are sure it’s on the menu.) Even for those women who enjoy a kinkier edge, a truly-felt “I love you” may still be the world’s greatest lubricant…